Most of my stress comes from things not going according to my plans. If stress was the only thing that happened as a result of this, bad as it is in itself, it wouldn’t be the worst thing.
But that’s just not me.
The stress leads to irritation and my entire mood goes for a toss. And that, in turn, affects every aspect of my day and life – my work, my attitude towards things, my interactions with others. And while ‘OTHERS’ – the ones who are AWAY from me – are not affected as much because I go off social media, I don’t answer calls if I’m not in the mood to talk, etc., the ones who do bear the brunt of it are the two people who live with me.
With Laddoo, I still exercise a LOT of patience before I snap (which, thankfully, is not often, but it has happened), but the other one – my husband – is on the receiving end of my one-woman firing squad.
And the root of ALL these problems?
For the longest time, plans gave me direction. They still do. On days when there’s so much to do, it’s great to have a plan. But being a parent, who is a solo-parent most of the time, it can be a boon and a bane, especially when most of the circumstances are out of your control.
So I decided that the best thing for me this week will be to go with the…
Even though I have SOME plans, I’m not going to bother too much about things going my way. Or not. For the last few weeks I’ve adapted myself to changing situations, and last week I embraced the fact that things did not go my way.
But this week, I’m going to take it one step further by letting go of any control whatsoever and just sit back and watch what the Universe has planned for me. And then just do whatever comes to me in the moment.
It has GOT to be easier than making plans, and then swim against the tide just to make things go my way, and then put some additional effort to alter those plans when the situation changes, and waste so much TIME AND ENERGY over things that probably AREN’T MEANT TO HAPPEN ANYWAY.
Now let’s compare all of that with just GOING WITH THE FLOW.
Im’ma try that this week. And of course I will let you know how that goes.
Okay, so that’s my word for this week. What’s yours?
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